There is a story told about the Gaon HaRav Chaim m’Sanz ztk’l. After his son passed away he was asked how he bears the tremendous suffering and pain of loosing a child. His answer was given via a parable: Let’s imagine for a moment you are sitting comfortably on a chair when suddenly you receive a hard slap on your back. Immediately you turn around to see who did it.
If you turn around and notice a stranger behind you that you have never seen before chances are you will implode or explode with anger towards him. However, if you recognize that person to be your father and realize that it was a friendly smack, you are more likely to be acceptable and receive him with a warm glow.
The Gaon continued to say that there is a ‘ meaningless smack’ and there is a ‘smack of love’. I received a harsh and painful smack when I lost my son. However when I turned around to see who did it I saw that it was from HaKadosh Baruch Hu who I love more than anyone or anything in the world. His love for me is greater than His love for anyone in the world. Therefore I am able to cope with it the way that I do.
Hashem loves us and is guiding us to a world of perfection… forever. B’H may we merit to see only revealed good, Amen.